Open apologize by me

I would like to apologize to all the students of Tunku Abdul Rahman College over my statement that I posted on Facebook page. I didn't mean to pull the image of the college down and distroy the college's reputation. I am just too pressure on that day that I also posted on my twitter page at www.twitter.com/khavensingh.

I hope that with this apologize all TARCians can get back to normal and forgive and forget about it. Once again, Sorry for my statement.

Before boarding on AirAsia Flights

On 24 December 2010, I and Liau Jii Tsong make our journey back from Kelantan amd Sabah respectively. While waiting for departure on air asia flight we had Fillet O Fish in LCCT's Mac Donalds. and took some photos of ourself with the Malaysia Lotus F1 Racing Team that is in LCCT.

Malaysia's First Lotus F1 Racing Car

me and F1 Racing Car

Liau and Malaysia's Lotus F1 Car

Liau & F1

me and Liau

R I P Alviss Kong (江世丰)

A 22 year old Chinese teen that jumped off from the 14th floor of the apartment where he lived. Alviss Kong, killed himself due to emotional distress brought about by the recent breakup with his girlfriend of four month old relationship.

It was also reported in the local newspaper that Alviss had the same experience before where he committed suicide after breaking up with his first girl friend but luckily he was saved in the nick of time. The depression over the second break up seemed to have caused him to spiral out of control and again leading him to re-attempt suicide. However, this time he didn't escape death. Love kills!

On the day he committed suicide, Alviss has posted a farewell note on his Facebook profile page together with a photo that he tagged as the final photo of himself alive . He looked quite overly depressed in the picture with tears rolling down from his eyes. The sorrow was hard to bear and it seems that life mean nothing to him at that moment.

At around 11.15 pm (local time) on Wednesday, 12/8/2010, he posted a status message on his Facebook wall that sounds "Count Down For 45 Mins... What should I do in this 45 mins?" There were quite a few responses towards this status, particular from his sister, Chelvin who currently lives in Brunei. One of the messages in which he told Celvin to take care of their mum and family really freaked her out. You can read on her status below. 

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Last photo of Alviss, the moment before he took his life.

Worrying about his brother, Chelvin tried to called him at around 1.30 am but failed to get through. Thus, she contacted her father to check out whereabouts of Alviss. His father as usual found him having a drink with his friends at a nearby stall where they live. Chelvin then had a short chat with him to find out what was wrong with him but she was told that it was just a prank that he wanted to play on his friends. He reassured her that everything was fine and told her to go back to sleep.


At around 3.30 am, his father was awakened by a loud noise and when he looked down from the veranda, he saw Alviss lying on a car covered in blood. Alviss was rushed to the hospital but the doctor failed to resurrect him. He was pronounceddeath at 9.00 am, just a few hours after the jump. People began blogging about his suicide soon after the news spread.

His father was quoted saying, "Why didn't he think about his family as much as he did for a girl he only knew for four months?"

Again love kills! 

Alviss's Facebook Status Update on the day he committed suicide (read the translation below)

Facebook Status Translation:

Alvis Kong: Count Down for 45 mins... What should I do in this 45 mins?




Chelvin Kong: For What?




Alvis Kong: Sis, I love you :)




Chelving Kong: Are you crazy? What's wrong?




Alviss Kong: Your brother always love you... just that I don't know how to express it to you. Thanks Sis for loving me too.




Melissa Beh: Count down for what?




Chelvin Kong: I'm touched with that. This is the first time I hear it from you. Love you too.




Alviss Kong: Sis, pls take good care of mummy over there and also the baby alexiss too (her sister newborn baby).




Elouise Toh: Do what you think best! Bear this in mind




Crystal Wei: Whatever, as long as don't hurt yourself




Chelvin Kong: Hello, hello, you freaking me out here.. What's wrong with you!!!

There were quite a lot of discussions in Malaysian forums regarding this issue, particular when the news has just spread. Some had opinions that he was selfish for not thinking about his parents and family prior to ending his life. It was so silly for him to end his life due to a failed relationship that only lasted for four months.

Some even said that this was an revenge that he attempted on his girlfriend for breaking up with him, which he wanted to make her feel guilty for the rest of her life. Well, that's just people opinions.

Well, there were also people who love him very much. He would do everything to prove his love for the person that he loves. It's hard to find such a person that it deeply in love with someone.

The only thing that I want to express here is that no one should commit suicide. Your life does not ONLY belong to you, it also belongs to the people around you, particular your parents and those that love you.

Can you imagine that in a life threatening situation, the mother can go so far for even sacrificing her life in order to protect her child? Why take it yourself?

Don't kill yourself for the person you love but live your precious life for the people who love you.

Rest in peace, Alviss. May God bless his soul.

Alviss and Bin

Alviss Kong announced in his blog that his relationship with his ex-girl friend started on the 26th of July 2010. He was very passionate about this relationship and has posted quite some happy memories in his blog journal. However, the relationship did not last long and it ended in the beginning of December 2010. Sources indicated that it was on 5th December 2010, four days before his count down suicide. This was his second relationship and he has been rejected five times before he got a 'yes' from her.

Somebody from a local forum has posted an analysis on why Alviss has acted in such a way. I'm not sure if that's really came from a professional point of view but if you want to read it, check it out here: Suicide: An Alviss Kong Case Study
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A video dedicated to Alviss (R.I.P.)

Alviss's Suicide Note On Facebook

Alviss Kong "No" Happy Ending

Alviss's Ending Note

(dedicated to her ex-girl friend)

In your definition, what is love?

I gave up everything for you, you cast me aside so heartlessly again and again, you said you love me, you said you had never changed, it's just not in your mind anymore.

Your heartlessness given me the courage to end my life.

Sounds silly? I also find myself being silly, I'd told you before I love you, I said it and I meant it.. I'll love you till the moment I die.

Now I'd said it, I'd to give myself a breakthrough.

Not because of you, but because in my world, indeed there is only love, and you're the girl that I love most.

Today I wanna thank you for the one last sweet memory, the hug you gave me in the cinema really made me felt like everything was coming back.

Unknowingly, in the end, you still stuck to your decision.

You'd changed, you said you still love me, but I just felt that you just love being with them.

Love, is not my game. I have messed up with both of my relationship.

With regrets, at the end of the day, you didn't even give me the last chance to send you home, .....never mind.

I won't have the chance next time, because once you finish reading this, I would have already left the world.

I can't truly understand your love, but within these four months are the happiest moments in my life, so let them be in your memory for eternity.

Update:

This is really tragic and I don't know why it bothers me very much. I keep on thinking about this youngster even though I have not met him before. It's really a waste and I regret that he has chosen to end his life at such a very young age. This was really not the right thing to do but I really hope that he is doing well now at the other side. He was too much in 'love' and couldn't differentiate what's wrong and what's not. 

To his ex-girlfriend: Don't blame yourself, it's not your fault, this was his decision. Life is precious, so cherish it.

To his family: Don't blame the girl, no one's wrong here. He is gone, nothing much can be done now. One thing for sure, he still lives in your memory forever. God bless!

CPR Sem 1 & 2 Year 1

Finally back in college after 1 week on MC

I catch cold on last two weeks of Wednesday, It was raining non stop for a few days in Kuala Lumpur. I go on as normal for 3 days although I am having fever.

On that night I called my dad and wanted to go to see a doctor, but due to I am lazy to be on medication I refuse to go. On Friday evening, I went to my aunt's house and then off to see a doctor. The doctor then confirmed that I had chickenpox .

Later, I got a 1 week MC from the doctor and few medicine. Then I phoned dad and told him about that and he told that I need to be careful. Starting on Sunday, I had to be a vegetarian so, I cannot eat all the meats that I like in fact have to eat 100% vegetarian. That means no egg and meat nor fish for me.

After a week, I feel better and I had no more fever nor headache. So, I can easily move around in short distance but, I still have to be a vegetarian. But that does not matter, as long as I am healthy, that all I need. Finally, I am back in college and I am happy that I cam be in college again and not wasting my time at home.

Therefore, I would like to tell all by friends, lecturer and family members that I am ALL FINE now and I can go ahead with my daily routine. I will not be in college if I am not capable.

 Now, my state of health is in good condition as before so, don't need to be afraid of chickenpox as everyone of us will be getting it at least once in a life time.

I left Law but, still doing professional studies

On 12 March 2009, I collected my SPM result at my secondary school. Later, with my discussion with my parents i set to continue my Tertiary education at Tunku Abdul Rahman College. I then registered online and sent the application form. A few weeks later, I received an offer letter from TAR College.

For some reason, i changed my mind to do A-Levels in Law in one of the law college in Kuala lumpur. So, I became a law student on 19 May 2009 and starting my A-Levels in Law a month later. Thinking that A-levels Law is easy, I go for it. After three months I wanted to quit but my dad does allow me to do so.

I have to wait a year to quit my A-Levels in Law and while I am waiting I face many problems no matter in college or at my aunt's house. But, thinking that this damn problems will be ending soon, I bared with it until the end.

Then in April 2010, Tunku Abdul Rahman College had its open day, without wasting any of my time, i call my dad saying that i am going to enroll myself in TAR College, and my dad says "YES YOU CAN". I quickly buy the application form for RM 10.00 and applied and sent it before the last day of the open day.

Finally i had been offered Public Relations in TAR College Kuala Lumpur, Setapak Main Campus. So, I joined TAR College and left Law but, I never leave  the profession as we all know that Law is a profession and so do Public Relations. Both are professionals 

Now with Tunku Abdul Rahman College, I had more confidence and more responsibilities i think. Thanks dad for letting me shift to a college that we love, Quality and Affordable Education.

SSH SWC 2010 General Meeting plus Dinner with seniors

On 23 November, the School of Social Science & Humanities Student Welfare Committee (SSH SWC) had its Annual General Meeting (AGM) where the juniors will be appointed as directors of their own department. Not just that, there are also five top management post to be held by those who chosen.

SSH SWC Chairperson and Secretary 

When all of the appointment had ended, we started planning about a one day outing with our Seniors. There are many suggestion given, but it is not yet confirm the venue and the time as well as the date because we are not so sure about the event flow of the day.

members work divided by the new 2010-2011 Event Manager

Later, we went for dinner at Tong Jieng Restaurant at Danau Kota, Setapak. We went there by four cars if I am not mistaken and ordered dishes such as vegetables, butter prawn, Sweet and sour chicken and fish. "I am a little bit 'special'" that is what my Seniors said to me because I went and sit with my Seniors and not the juniors. The chairperson of SSH SWC, Fumi said "you are now a senior". For me, its not wrong to sit and have dinner with my seniors in one big table.Because, in a couple of weeks more I will be a senior just like them.

my seniors sitting the same table with me

Simon, Fumi and  Zack

I also took some pictures with my seniors and my SSH SWC buddies. Happy moments , sad moments, problems we will settle it professionally and efficiently because SSH SWC believes that no matter what course are you, senior or junior we are 1FAMILY. 

Juniors of SSH SWC

chatting SSH SWC juniors

Christephe, Kar Keng, Desmond and Sophia

Sophia and Junn

Nigel, Kelvin, and Olivia

a group photos of my seniors by me

Olivia. Fumi, Simon and two more SSH SWC seniors 

one of my female seniors 

Me and SSH SWC 2009-2010 Chairperson Fumi

Me and my 2009-2010 Director Kelvin

Me and  Junior

Time is passing so fast, juniors become seniors, there will also be my time to live SSH SWC. But before I retire from SSH SWC, I have to handle the events of 2011 first and recruite many new juniors during college Society Day.